I assure you I would give my own life happily if I could have spared my mum and the others the months of torture they endured while slowly dying from this horrible disease. I have lost my mum and several relatives to cancer. And that you get to be someone who has not witnessed a loved one in extreme pain.
Painful, yes, but not as painful as cancer! Be grateful your loved one didn't have time to suffer or be scared. You merely have to make the effort to adjust your mindset to accepting the loss. That is a selfish point of view of a healthy person who would prefer to make her loved ones suffer prolonged pain and fear to than put herself through the discomfort of the shocking news of the loss. It's not about baking but about a person's difficult recovery of losing a loved one One thing that struck me as awful was the author saying something in the lines of that it is worse to lose a loved one quickly without warning, than for the loved one to die of illness and the family having time to say goodbye.
